Sep 26, 2026 · 1h 31m
Vanessa Van Edwards links confidence to posture, language, and energy
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The episode reframes confidence as a set of observable behaviors and deliberate choices that can improve connection without demanding constant performance.
- 1Open posture, visible hands, and purposeful gestures can influence both perceived confidence and internal feelings of safety.
- 2Vulnerability and genuine appreciation create stronger connection than trying to appear perfect, impressive, or relentlessly positive.
- 3The ABCD framework helps protect high-value work, reduce draining commitments, and design achievement around enjoyment rather than burnout.
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Van Edwards explains why the distance between the ears and shoulders matters, linking open posture to vocal power, perceived confidence, and felt safety.
The brief
Behavioral researcher Vanessa Van Edwards argues that confidence is not just an inner state: posture, gestures, language, and energy management shape how people connect and perform.
The conversation challenges the idea that likability requires polish. Genuine appreciation and selective vulnerability can make interactions safer, more relatable, and more meaningful than forced positivity.
Van Edwards demonstrates how hunching, protecting the neck, crossing the arms, and looking down at a phone can signal defeat, while open posture helps claim space.
Her practical fixes include holding a phone up and out, keeping hands visible, using purposeful gestures, and replacing routine questions with prompts that invite real enthusiasm.
The episode closes with the ABCD exercise: protect exceptional work, delegate tolerable tasks, reduce draining activities, and build a quest that makes achievement sustainable.
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Vanessa Van Edwards
Harvard UniversityListen to the full episode and explore every guest, topic, and moment on PodLume.