How Not to Be a Hot Mess

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by Nico Hase, Devon Hase · 2020

How Not to Be a Hot Mess: A Buddhist Survival Guide for Modern Life is a practical guide to navigating stress, burnout, relationships, and other pressures of contemporary life. Drawing on Buddhist wisdom and mindfulness, it presents six guiding principles: meditate, don’t be a jerk, give a little, say what’s true, make sex good, and stay clear.

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1 episode featuring How Not to Be a Hot Mess

Buddhist practice turns relationship conflict into a skill