Esther Perel
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Esther Perel is a renowned psychotherapist, author, and speaker known for her work on relationships and intimacy. She is the author of the book "Mating in Captivity: Reconciling the Erotic + the Domestic" and has been featured as a relationship expert on platforms like The Tim Ferriss Show.
Works by Esther Perel
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What Esther Perel has said on podcasts
8 statements
Daily appreciation helps sustain nurturing relationships
“These daily appreciations, they go a long way”
Open the episode · #880: Relationship Tools That Work — Esther Perel, Brené Brown, Dr. Sue Johnson, Terry Real, and More on Conflict, Repair, and Lasting LoveListen at 2:46
Letter writing strengthens intimacy between partners
“I Am a strong fan of letter writing.”
Open the episode · #880: Relationship Tools That Work — Esther Perel, Brené Brown, Dr. Sue Johnson, Terry Real, and More on Conflict, Repair, and Lasting LoveListen at 2:53
Touch is a major source of intimacy
“Touch is a major experience of intimacy.”
Open the episode · #880: Relationship Tools That Work — Esther Perel, Brené Brown, Dr. Sue Johnson, Terry Real, and More on Conflict, Repair, and Lasting LoveListen at 3:23
Listening is often harder than speaking in relationships
“listening is harder than speaking”
Open the episode · #880: Relationship Tools That Work — Esther Perel, Brené Brown, Dr. Sue Johnson, Terry Real, and More on Conflict, Repair, and Lasting LoveListen at 4:44
Partners should express requests rather than complaints
“don't complain. Ask.”
Open the episode · #880: Relationship Tools That Work — Esther Perel, Brené Brown, Dr. Sue Johnson, Terry Real, and More on Conflict, Repair, and Lasting LoveListen at 5:08
Criticism often expresses an underlying wish
“Behind every criticism, there's often a wish.”
Open the episode · #880: Relationship Tools That Work — Esther Perel, Brené Brown, Dr. Sue Johnson, Terry Real, and More on Conflict, Repair, and Lasting LoveListen at 5:11
Criticism, contempt, stonewalling, and defensiveness drive relationship decline
“Those four are pretty much the killers in the land of arguments and relationship declines.”
Open the episode · #880: Relationship Tools That Work — Esther Perel, Brené Brown, Dr. Sue Johnson, Terry Real, and More on Conflict, Repair, and Lasting LoveListen at 5:56
Partners should show empathy during conflict
“Show empathy.”
Open the episode · #880: Relationship Tools That Work — Esther Perel, Brené Brown, Dr. Sue Johnson, Terry Real, and More on Conflict, Repair, and Lasting LoveListen at 6:40
Statements are attributed to the speaker as said on the episode and reflect their view at the time, not PodLume's. They are not advice.
What others have said about Esther Perel
1 statement · 1 positive
Esther Perel is exceptionally perceptive about people’s intended meanings and feelings.
“she is so unbelievably perceptive of. And I mean, I know this, I mean of her talks and stuff, but I. I know her personally and I just feel like she just like sees what I'm actually trying to say or what I'm actually feeling like really, really well”
Open the episode · Black Holes, Denny’s Fist Fights & Japanese Handjob Culture - Rabbit Hole #4 - #1118Listen at 1:39:44
Statements are attributed to the speaker as said on the episode and reflect their view at the time, not PodLume's. They are not advice.
5 episodes featuring Esther Perel
Office Hours with Prop G
Scorekeeping strains love as success reshapes family ties
The episode examines how ambition, distance, wealth, and recognition can quietly turn relationships into transactions.
Sep 2, 2026 · 18 min
Something You Should Know
Infidelity damages trust while executive function shapes self-control
The episode connects relationship recovery after betrayal with the practical limits of attention, planning, impulse control, and emotional regulation.
Aug 20, 2026 · 54 min
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Jay Shetty reframes letting go as a test of self-trust
The episode examines how to leave harmful dynamics, read silence as a boundary, and separate healing from the urge to reconcile.
Aug 19, 2026 · 41 min
The Tim Ferriss Show
Relationship experts outline actionable frameworks to navigate conflict and sustain intimacy
This compilation provides practical, tested frameworks from world-class therapists and thinkers to help couples move past resentment and actively co-create resilient partnerships.
Aug 19, 2026 · 57 min
The Rich Roll Podcast
Lee Sung Jin turns Beef into a study of inherited pain
The conversation connects Beef’s psychological drama to the harder question of whether insight, spirituality, and art can actually change entrenched behavior.
Aug 17, 2026 · 1h 53m