Demand-withdraw cycle

Topic

The demand-withdraw cycle is a maladaptive communication pattern in interpersonal relationships where one partner presses for discussion, change, or resolution (the demander/pursuer) while the other partner avoids the conflict, shuts down, or withdraws (the withdrawer). This cyclical dynamic often leads to increased relationship distress, lower levels of intimacy, and decreased conflict resolution, as each partner's behavior triggers and reinforces the other's reaction.