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Demand-withdraw cycle
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The demand-withdraw cycle is a maladaptive communication pattern in interpersonal relationships where one partner presses for discussion, change, or resolution (the demander/pursuer) while the other partner avoids the conflict, shuts down, or withdraws (the withdrawer). This cyclical dynamic often leads to increased relationship distress, lower levels of intimacy, and decreased conflict resolution, as each partner's behavior triggers and reinforces the other's reaction.
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Demand-withdraw-demand-defend patterns characterize distressed couples
“That is the typical demand, withdraw, demand, defend dialogue that you'll see in a distressed couple.”
Open the episode · #880: Relationship Tools That Work — Esther Perel, Brené Brown, Dr. Sue Johnson, Terry Real, and More on Conflict, Repair, and Lasting LoveListen at 32:17
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